one more day

It's one more day until Travis gets home.  I've done a terrible thing to myself not establishing any friendships here in Washington since we've arrived.  The problem is that I rarely meet another person who I'd really just like to hang out with.  That may sound arrogant.  It's not meant to be.  I do like to go out with other couples, that way, I'm spending time both with my husband and an acquaintance.  I say acquaintance because that's all I've got here.  You see, establishing a friendship can take much effort, some time, and after you've spent enough time with that person that they could be considered a 'friend' (whatever that all involves), you may come to the conclusion that you don't really want to be friends with that person...and so there you have it.  Alot of time invested with no real guarantee on a return.

I have two great friends from high school and two other fairly good friends also from high school that I could call up and feel like we hadn't missed much after not having seen each other in years.  But I had to go to high school...and so establishing friendships there was....just convenient.  As I see it, establishing a good friendship and finding a husband are/was equally as challenging!  And it took me a LONG TIME to find my husband.  But what a great one he is.  I'm also a lot more likely to say that when he's gone.  What.... is that they say?  "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"...or some such nonsense.  Well, it's true.  And it's a lie.  It has nothing to do with your true feelings of a person...it's just that when you no longer have someone you care deeply for, you tend to forget everything about that person you dislike...for some reason.  I'm not sure why.  Time is a funny thing!  Hu.

Now, don't go thinking that I don't see the value in friendships.  I really do. That's exactly why I'm writing on the subject.  Let me think of some of the best reasons to have friendships.  They are often with the same sex.  This is valuable as it can be a comfort to talk to someone that seems like they are 'made-up' of some of the same stuff.  This is vague, but try and think of having a conversation with your husband when all that is going through your mind is "I'd be better off talking to a brick wall." Often times this doesn't just go through my head, I find myself saying it out loud...with much expression.  :)

Anyhow,...friendships are valuable.  That is what I was getting at.  ...In a very round-about way.  Friendships are valuable, and I am lazy.  There, so that's two things I was getting at, which made my time invested in writing this more valuable.  How does someone write so much about so little?

Well, I guess that might be one nice thing about being a twin.  A convenient friendship.