my opinion or yours?

I was thinking further on my previous blog of character and how one can be a more accurate judge of it.  Why write more on uncertain subjects for me?  I don't know..just because I want to figure out why it seems to be such a big deal.  I've noticed that the confident, successful, knowledgeable individuals of this world could not be further from uncertainty... or at least that's how they convey themselves.  Now I have been fooled by the confident, assuming what they speak of is trustworthy....and have found, (as previously mentioned) more often than not, arrogance and err to be a friend of this unambiguous, confident trait of character.  Now, if I had to ask myself if to contemplate on this thought may possibly violate the laws of contemplation, I would have to say...I don't think so. It may possibly prove to be productive.  This is a situation one must take a chance on, otherwise, one would never know...better to break the rules then to have never found out.  I am very flexible when it comes to following rules.  :)

Anyhow, why does it seem to be such a common theme to 'figure out' the authenticity of one's character?  I hear women doing it ALL the time (partly because I am not in the company of men or their discussions very often).  I believe I hear of it most often, and noticed in myself most often, that people are making judgements of character of those they may find have disturbing personalities working at a dissonance to their own... are particularly unusual for one reason or another, or just tend to be the pushy type.

Now that I've thought a bit further on it, I think it's all a bunch of bularkie.  That is not a real word as far as I know, and so any spelling I've chosen here could stand as correct and/or irrelevant.  I think if I had grown a brain of my own, than 'figuring out' other's character would become most insignificant.  If one could simply see past another's physical appearance, speaking skills, accents, odor (or lack thereof), age, life-experiences, sex, mannerisms, levels of self-confidence and attitude, then it would present as easier to focus on the content of what the person was actually saying.  Outside of that, If I were simply more confident in my own thoughts,  the content of what was being said would not be taken without knowing that any information is just that...information (ideas) presented with the bias of whomever is speaking.  I have made it a personal goal to think more about what people are saying and less about how they are presenting it (not that I keep a list of personal goals for myself).  I will from now on carefully consider what is being said and give my own thought to it.   After all, most discussions are not based on simple facts.  If they were, there would not be much point to having a discussion!  Having a brain of my own and attempting not to immediately form opinions off of other people's information is something I'm going to try. If I can form my own opinions by not assuming information presented to be correct or incorrect, but simply information that may be useful either way... should be a step in the right direction.  It all seems to have a bunch to do with self-confidence.  Gee, the entries lately have sounded a bit like a bunch of psycho-babble...just one subject after another...blah, blah, blah....but nevertheless, somehow useful to me....